What to Say When You’re Leaving a Job You Hate
Leaving a job you hate comes with a particular temptation: to finally say all the things you’ve been holding back. Almost universally, this is a temptation worth resisting. The industry is smaller than it looks, and references matter longer than you’d expect.
The Resignation Conversation
“I wanted to let you know that I’ve accepted another opportunity. Today will be my last day on [date]. I’d like to make this transition as smooth as possible — what would be most helpful from me in the meantime?”
You’ve given notice, offered to help with the transition, and said nothing you’ll regret.
The Exit Interview
If there’s an exit interview, calibrate how honest to be. Vague, constructive feedback is usually better received than a specific inventory of grievances.
“I found that I work best with [more autonomy / clearer communication / stronger mentorship], and I feel like this role wasn’t the right fit in that regard.”
With Your Colleagues
Be warm but careful about what you share. “I’m excited about the new opportunity” is complete and true and safe.
The Last Days
How you behave on the way out is what people remember. Showing up, doing your work, helping with the handover — those things outlast whatever frustrations drove you to leave.
